My Modest Proposalby Ben Crogh
Kids usually progress in dangerous sports like skiing, biking, or skateboarding the hard way. Action sports have a high level of risk: injuries are common, so fewer people participate. Ambitious parents often choose athletic endeavors that build more than just narrow active skills; they search for those which initiate a lifelong kernel of wisdom. In Team vs. Individual Sport, Brent George writes, "With individual sport, you can't hide behind teammates. Success and failure are yours alone to bear. Where you can rely on a teammate in team sports, you must rely on yourself in individual sport."1 While team sports are enjoyable for their social benefits, individual sports may hold more valued outcomes. Knowing that individual action sports initiate a long-term learning curve, all parents must do is bring up athletes who choose the more risky path from an early age.
Raising kids who are unafraid of sports injuries is a challenge in itself. It is hard as a parent to push your child to attempt risky feats like hitting jumps on skis, when you yourself cannot accomplish the skill. There is one simple solution to this predicament: send kids out to learn for themselves. Fully support whatever risks they enjoy naturally. Sending his three-year-old child down a Black Diamond ski run, a parent could rely on the child to figure out any potential problems. On the Psychology Educator forum, Dr. Brian Moser explains that "By pushing through the fear in the sport, many find that they are better able to face the challenges life puts in their way."2 Children must learn to be winners by facing their biggest fears without help and without firm direction. As Michael Jordan once said, "I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."3
Fearless athletes result from the way we present individual action sports. As soon as children can walk, stand, crawl, or float, it is essential to offer them extreme sports so that they naturally adapt to adrenaline rushes without fear. It is not how much time parents spend with children building their skills, but most importantly, the attitude instilled into nascent competitive minds. Tamar Chansky, a psychologist studying early child exposure to different activities, says, "Our children can wish for the super-human talent, the near perfect skills—those may be out of reach—but what is absolutely in your child's grasp, where the level playing field truly lies, is in the mindset of an Olympian."4 Olympians are not afraid to make mistakes; Olympians do not give up after an injury or loss.
I propose to leave purely up to the athlete full control of his or her ultimate success. Besides creating future extreme athletes and Olympians, my proposal has many other benefits for parents. Team sports are nice because parents can leave their kids for a few hours with a coach and go to the store or do errands. For the first time, extreme action sports can offer the same type of relief. Sending kids off on their own to learn a sport at full speed frees the parent, who really does not need to be present during the learning process. With my plan, mom can drop her two-year-old off at the ski hill by himself, run to the bank, store, etc., all while enabling her young child to develop into a fearless, professional skier.
Since I will not be starting kindergarten for two more years, I have tons of free time to ski, but my parents always work, making it hard for them to teach me. Perfect: I ride faster without them anyways.
My mom drops me off at the hill and the liftys pick me up and place me onto the chairlift. I am about ready to shred. With ten inches of fresh snow, the chest-deep powder will be sending me face shots all day long! Even though most of the time there is too much snow for me to see where I am going, and my skis are not nearly wide enough to stay afloat, I can still out-ride all the grownups.
The only downside to riding alone on pow days is that when I get buried, I can't get out, and when I crash, sending my gear every which direction, it takes me forever to tread through the deep snow to gather it all and continue my run. Riding alone has taught me that when I am hurt, my mom is not going to be there to make it better. I have learned to ski it out, or scream.
In action sports, self-confidence and grit comes from one simple solution: free-range parenting. Only truly untethered children fully learn how sports work and how winning feels. Such children keep chasing that feeling. Pediatrician Lisa Zamosky says, "In fact, if you grew up in the '70s and '80s (and earlier, of course), you probably remember going out to play after school and being expected to return home only when the street lights turned on."5 Older generations have created extreme sport pioneers like base jumper Shane McConkey, stuntman Evel Knievel, pro freeskier Candide Thovex, and pro mountain biker Stevie Smith. Some of the most gnarly athletes of their time, these men were once kids who did not have countless opportunities to explore many different sports. However, once they found their passion, the sport that put them in their elements, they bloomed. Parents used to realize that they could not keep kids like these legends from going outside and hopping on whatever gave them a rush. Now, when kids are bored, they are handed a phone or iPad and told to stay quiet while mommy works. Parents must give their kids freedom to pursue and love activities that will spawn success. The more parents suppress a kid’s dream, the less that kid will believe in his own possibilities.
Rooted in the tried and true ways of old, my solution, while rarely used, is the way to sporting success. Parents may fear sending their kids out alone to discover the dynamics of a sport, but must accept such risk as the only way to grow Olympians. This is the most logical way to raise competitive, athletic kids.
As I grew up, my mom was always concerned with the idea that there had to be a responsible adult around wherever I went. Her fears stunted my level of athletic excellence, thus removing me from the upper echelon of skiers with whom I might be competing today. If my parents had just let me go ski whenever I felt the urge or whenever it snowed, alone, then the 2018 Winter Olympics might have been a reality for my future. I cannot go back and become a kid again to do it all over, but when I have children of my own, they will have the chance to become legends. Parental fear of death only retards the growth of extreme athletes.
April 8th, 2016: weather is perfect with a cool breeze coming up the valley. The whole scene -- newly uncovered bike trails threading through Jug Mountain -- could have been perfect until my bike and I took flight. Bail! then.. silence. My vision returned a half hour after the wreck and my walking came within a few hours. The next three months I spent my life severely concussed.
Today I can say that now I am a much better rider because of that crash. I calculate every inch of my rides and have become more aware of crucial situations. If my parents had been forced to accept free-range parenting, this accident would have occurred much earlier in my life, and I would have benefitted from the increased wisdom earlier in my career. Pushing the sport to new heights is what adrenaline junkies like myself are made to do. Getting the better shots and the bigger name is all a part of being unleashed to explore extreme sports at a young age.
1 -- Team vs. Individual Sport. G4 Athlete, Sports Biomechanics. http://g4athlete.com/team-vs-individual-sport/ Mercer Island, WA: 2012. Viewed: 2016.
2 -- Overcoming Fear of the Most Dangerous Sports. https://psychologyeducator.wordpress.com/2013/08/05/overcoming-fear-of-the-most-dangerous-sports/ Psychology Educator, Tips for Aspiring Psychology Students. 2013. Viewed: 2016.
3 -- Jordan, Michael. Brainy Quotes, Michael Jordan Quotes. http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/m/michaeljor127660.html 2001. Viewed: 2016.
4 -- Chansky, Tamar. Teach Your Child to Think like an Olympic Athlete. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/worry-wise/201402/teach-your-child-think-olympic-athlete Psychology Today, 2014. Viewed: 2016.
5 -- Zamosky, Lisa. Free-Range Parenting: It’s a new hands-off approach to raising kids. Should you give it a try? http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/free-range-parenting WebMD: Health & Parenting. Viewed: 2016.
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